1. Take inventory of your feelings “This requires us to tap into memories, past experiences, [and] feelings when topics around sexuality come up and [learn to process] them,” Hope says. Journaling about your personal experiences with sex (whether it’s about conversations you’ve had or sexual acts you’ve engaged in) can allow you to gain a 360-view of why you may not feel confident while having sex. However, if doing this becomes too uncomfortable for you, that’s OK. Instead of journaling on your own, it might be a good idea to connect with a professional to help you uncover where this lack of confidence...

Whether you’re having solo, partnered, or multipartnered sex, and whether you’ve had sex zero, 100, or 100 thousand times, these tips will come (wink) through for you. Forget any myths you may have learned “So often the barriers to pleasurable sex aren’t lack of skills, toys, or attractiveness,” Tanner says. “More than likely, it’s that we’re buying into myths about what we’re allowed to want and need during sex.” This is especially true for cisgender women and other folks assigned female at birth. Here, Tanner says, having more pleasurable sex means “getting more comfortable with taking up space, asking for...